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Don’t Forget You Wanted to Go Places

Paying attention to our dreams of success is crucial.  Otherwise we forget them and lower our hopes during life.  Have you ever wondered why people as they age often seem more cynical, disappointed and less amused with life?  Whoops!  They’ve lost touch with and given up their hopes and ambitions! Still there are some synapses that have trace memories of those hopes and dreams and they nag, disappoint and ruin lives whenever they come to mind. The answer is not to brush these memories away and continue with a pale and insignificant version of your life, but to re-discover, embrace…

We Are Only As Good As Our Dreams

During life we frequently learn to aim lower.  Often, we are told that this is a good thing as it is more ‘realistic’ and not everyone can reach great heights.  The trouble is that when we stop mentally practising our big ambitions, then we gradually forget we ever had such dreams of wonderful outcomes.  We abandon our own ambitions. The Smart Therapy Centre can help you re-connect with your dreams and become the best you can be.  

Get What You Want

Many of us don’t know what we want in life.  We are often too busy to really consider our dreams and we easily get caught up in doing the same repetitive things day in day out. We need to briefly step out of the fast pace of life and ask ourselves about one thing we would like to do differently that will help us achieve our dreams. At the Smart Therapy Centre, we help people to identify their dreams and we impart the skills and wisdom that are necessary to achieve them.  

With our large brain comes huge responsibility and meaning

In my 25+ years as a clinical psychologist at the Smart Therapy Centre I have seen countless people struggling to find meaning in their lives.  When we lack meaning it is easy to become unmotivated, flat, anxious, envious, angry and despairing.  These emotions really get in the way of having an enjoyable life. In my experience, the problem is that people often look for meaning within themselves and their own ambitions rather than looking for meaning out in the wider world.  As Archimedes said ‘rise above yourself and grasp the world’. There are huge contributions to be made out in…

Kids Behaving Badly

Often in my clinical psychology work at the Smart Therapy Centre, parents come in and tell me that their out-of-control child is anxious and needs treatment to make them calm. This seems to be a common misconception.  Usually, I find that there is not an inkling of anxiety in the child and it is just that they are behaving badly because of parental confusion.  This probably results from so many conflicting messages to mothers (in particular), as a result of which it is easy to get parenting wrong. In terms of basics, there are three main styles of parenting:  Authoritarian…

How to sleep like a sleepy little cat!

Sleep disturbance has been one of the most common problems I’ve encountered in my decades of work as a clinical psychologist at the Smart Therapy Centre. By now, most people know most of the ‘sleep hygiene’ factors.  Things like having a dark, cool room with cool bedcovers since getting too warm keeps us awake.  Or, getting off the computer or TV screen at least an hour before bed as the blue light reduces melatonin production.  Also, ensuring we don’t engage in other activities in bed like emails, TV, eating or reading because doing these things teaches our brain to stay…

Nearly all Misery Arises from Losing Control

Contrary to popular belief, if I were to say what single issue not only causes, but keeps misery alive for decades longer than necessary, it is that of giving ourselves permission to mentally lose control.  Over and over in my work as a clinical psychologist at the Smart Therapy Centre I see people who are giving themselves permission to lose control.  We give that permission when we mentally abdicate responsibility, take drugs, drink excessively, eat excessively, become full of rage, collapse, smoke, engage in self-harm, become helpless and passive,  ruminate endlessly on depressive mentations or give ourselves over to sheer,…

All drugged-up and nowhere to go

In my work at the Smart Therapy Centre over the past 25 years I have often seen the alarming results of medication on people’s capacity to recover from distress.  In my experience, this distress could almost always have been resolved in a matter of days or weeks with intelligent, targeted intervention. Instead many people unwittingly get caught in the revolving door of the psychiatric system where they are usually medicated.  Sadly, medication tends to take the frontal brain off-line and in so doing removes much of what makes us attentive, rational, imaginative, empathic and socially sensitive beings.  Moreover, medication tends…

Loneliness – How to Survive It

One of the most common problems I see in my clinical work at the Smart Therapy Centre is loneliness.  Every day, men and women struggle with lack of connection, alienation and desperate feelings of despair. Yet, most people think that they (as individuals) are the problem – that there is something wrong with them for being lonely and that everyone else out in the wider world is happy and engaged. But nothing could be further from the truth.  Loneliness is a problem associated with wealthy, first world countries where it is experienced in epidemic proportions.  This is mainly because advanced…

Build A Smart Not Domestic Brain

In my clinical work I often see women who are incredibly bored and angry about their domestic lives.  They cook, clean, wash, ferry the kids, plan and organise all aspects of the home. Meanwhile, these women say that their male partners ‘get it easy’ off at work all day barely having to ever consider any domestic challenges. One very stressed 26-year-old woman even said that she makes her partner ring her 20 minutes before he will arrive home so she can have dinner on the table, exactly on time for him.  Needless to say, he earns nearly all of the…